Hi Jeff.
I'm using v 6.2.3 of Theme My Login.
I'm also using FormidablePro plugin to collect the user reg.
(it does this perfectly well, and stores the extra field values as user meta)
I have set up the default new user status as 'pending' in both FormidablePro and the WP general settings.
I want to use TML to fire off an 'activate your account' email to the new user, with a link in the email that will switch the user's role to 'Subscriber'.
I have looked all over and can't find a solution. I'm getting desperate here!!